“You don’t have to control your thoughts; you just have to stop letting them control you.” This quote, from American author Dan Millman, has the ring of truth for Dr Khido Ramadie, educational psychologist at the Mahikeng Campus of North-West University (NWU).

She keeps these words in mind as she strives to optimise students’ psychological well-being by fostering resilience and self-awareness and creating supportive environments to enhance academic performance and overall life satisfaction. “When I began my teaching journey, I worked closely with students facing difficult personal circumstances. Their strength moved me, and I quickly realised that to truly support them, I needed to care not just about their academics, but about their emotional well-being too,” says Dr Ramadie.

“Many learners face challenges far beyond the classroom. When students feel heard and understood, their potential unfolds. I wanted to create that space where they are not just students, but human beings who are seen, heard and valued.”

Mental wellness in action

At the NWU, she has become a quiet but powerful presence in the lives of many students. Through meaningful classroom engagement, spontaneous check-ins and heartfelt end-of-lesson reflections, she has created a space where mental health is not an afterthought but part of the learning experience.

“I’ve made it a habit to end my lessons with brief messages or discussions on everyday mental health topics. It’s amazing how small gestures can make a big impact,” she says.

Students have noticed. Whether through WhatsApp, email or spontaneous office visits, learners reach out seeking more than academic help they seek safety, empathy and reassurance.

“Students often carry emotional fatigue, burnout and personal struggles. Sometimes, they just need someone to listen without judgment. I try to be that person.”

These conversations, she notes, often go beyond surface-level stress. From relationship burnout to financial strain, students need support that speaks to the whole person. And when they return often years later with gratitude in their eyes and stories of transformation, she knows it was worth every moment.

“It’s not always about fixing things. It’s about being present, encouraging growth and believing in them until they believe in themselves again.”

Leading with heart

She believes women are uniquely positioned to lead conversations around mental health, particularly because they understand the power of vulnerability and the courage it takes to speak openly. “So many students struggle in silence. As women, we carry emotional awareness that allows us to lead from the heart. When we speak with empathy, we give others permission to do the same.”

Dr Ramadie cares for her own well-being by practising self-awareness and mindfulness, and allowing her natural free-spirited nature to keep her grounded.

“I’ve learned to check in with myself daily to breathe, reflect and stay connected to my purpose. That’s how I remain present for others without losing myself.”

Reflections on Women’s Month

For her, Women’s Month means celebration and affirmation. “It’s about wearing your crown, wiping your tears, standing tall and recognising the invisible labour women carry. We hold so much, yet we continue to rise and that deserves to be honoured.”

To those who want to make a difference but feel unsure where to start, she offers this advice: “Start with empathy. You don’t need all the answers. Just be present, be kind, and educate yourself on where to direct others for help. Even small acts of support can create real change.”

A hopeful future for NWU

Looking ahead, she envisions an NWU where mental health is not hidden behind stigma but embraced as part of everyday life.

“I hope we continue building a culture of empathy where wellness is woven into campus life, where support is accessible and students know they are never alone.”

Quick questions

· A woman you look up to? Michelle Obama

· A self-care practice you swear by? Mindfulness through daily reflection – taking time to breathe, reset and check in with myself.

· A quote that keeps you going? "You don’t have to control your thoughts. You just have to stop letting them control you." – Dan Millman

As we celebrate Women's Month at the NWU, may we be reminded of the quiet power of compassion, the leadership found in listening, and the lasting impact of one woman choosing to care deeply.

To the women who lead with heart, thank you.